Chris Rock, the Better Man. Whether, he was still in shock or he was just being himself after he was painfully hit by Will Smith, Chris Rock advocated for his Aggressor not to be removed by the Police from the premises. Chris Rock was the reason Will Smith was able to receive his Best Actor trophy in person instead of watching the announcement in Jail.
Only in Hollywood physically hurting and verbally threatening another Human Being on stage witnessed by “respected” Actors and Actresses we admire in the big screen was allowed to continue uninterrupted till the award’s finale. Only in Hollywood where humiliating a Person for everyone’s laughter is made okay. Every Award and Comedy Shows has full of them. Comedy at the expense of another is funny to all except the butt of one’s joke.
Seeing Will Smith go up the stage and slap Chris Rock in front of his Peers because his Wife was humiliated by Chris Rock’s joke was disturbing. The sound of the slap was so loud it’s all that one can hear. But louder was the silence of the audience. No one stood up to say,”Stop! Something very wrong just happened.”
The Awards went on. The Show went on. No edits. No revisions. It was a Show within a Show. Entertainment for the World to feast and engage in their Social Feeds like Twitter and Instagram.
For those who made jokes about the altercation, huge shame. We don’t laugh when someone is hurt or hurting, shamed and humiliated. Perhaps that’s okay in the Entertainment Planet of Hollywood, but it’s never okay outside the Real World, our World.
All involved appeared victims of a joke gone bad but it’s never an excuse for physical violence, otherwise anyone could do the same in the Real World when pissed off mad. I’m sure, if it’s you and me, we will end up in jail right away or face a lawsuit.
We are not Stars, just the ticket buyers responsible for the existence of Big Screen Movie Theaters and Blockbuster Hits. We are the monthly subscribers of Stream Line Entertainment like Netflix, Amazon Prime, Apple +, Disney +, Hulu, xfinity. Come to think of it, we hold the power to control the brightness or dimness of Hollywood and its Stars.
Co-workers we’re shocked the first day. Some did not even see the viral slapping video. The next day, a co-worker hearing the same topic said in a serious upset tone, “What’s done is done,” and turned his back.
I believe we should not turn our backs on issues that affects us all. No one should turn their backs on violence nor the harassing humiliating effects of jokes that targets People personally. They are wrong and unacceptable.
The Pandemic brought the worst in People. People had been edgy, angry, irritable, impatient, irrational, weird, emotional and super sensitive. Little trigger causes outburst, tantrums, violence and aggressive confrontations. This was happening for the last 2 years from airplanes, restaurants, streets, parks, healthcare settings, on the road, and now Hollywood. Madness Fever finally reached the Stars where many of us have already recovered and developed some immunity.
Our World is never same. We are never the same after the trauma and oppression of the COVID Pandemic. We need to be careful and mindful of what we say because what may be funny before the Pandemic may now be an offensive personal attack to others that can lead to violence and retaliation.
There have been many opinions. There have been many reflections. 6 days after the Oscars, things are just getting clearer and the incident appears not much different than what happens in our Real World.
There will be consequences. There will be changes. Lessons will be learned, willing or not. Real Apologies in person has to be made to resolve deeply rooted conflicts.
Now that all restrictions for COVID safety are lifted and the Global dominant BA.2 subvariant has proven more transmissible replacing the Omicron, getting a second COVID booster is timely and lifesaving. It’s an option for extra protection for those who believe in the preventative benefits of the vaccine.
I got my booster October 2021, and if it’s true that COVID antibodies looses significantly it’s efficacy 4-5 months after. FDA announcement just came at the right time. I always knew, there is a need for two boosters per year because in reality, those who got COVID only has 3 months of antibody protection, after which another COVID infection is possible.
The Immunocompromised, who are they?
Those on Chemotherapy, those who had Solid Organ Transplant like Kidney and Heart Transplant, those with inherent problems with their immune systems ( Primary Immunodeficiency) and those receiving long term corticosteroids and immunosuppressants to control and treat their Illness ( Secondary Immunodeficiency).
But what many of us do not realize is that everyday Stress and it’s acute and chronic manifestations like Anxiety, Depression, Insomnia, Unhealthy Habits and Lifestyle, Obesity or Undernutrition, Diabetes, Hypertension can lower our immune system.
An example, when people are dealing with significant Stress, they can get Shingles ( Painful rash that follows nerve tracts) and Cold Sores caused my Herpes Simplex Virus type 1 because of decreased immune defenses, which BTW is not an STD.
Overall, Stress will make us sick Physically, Mentally and Emotionally. So it should not be a surprise or far fetch idea if Stress can make anyone vulnerable to contracting COVID. Stress can even kill by causing Heart Attack and Stroke.
And since Stress is my best friend or constant adversary at Work and Real Life Dramas, then it makes sense that I should be excited to get my second booster. And I am excited and thankful.
I intend to enjoy, travel and live well Spring and Summer and I couldn’t think of a better guarantee than getting my second booster. If my COVID defenses are now down to 50-60%, it can easily go up to 95% infection protection after 2 weeks post vaccination.
By now, we all should have learned how to be kind and respectful to one another regardless of our views and beliefs with COVID and Vaccination. And we should stop being Political about it because first of all, we are not Politicians, and second, those Politicians are not paying us a single cent to deserve our time and attention.
Fighting, Worrying, Anger, Frustrations and Negativity are forms of Stress. We don’t want to lower our Immunity and get sick, right? Politics and Politicians are not worth our Health, Life and Energy. Seriously, they are not worth it.
When we’ve given everything including our Heart and still not enough, should we give up our Souls too?
No Person deserves to loose their Soul. No one or nothing deserves loosing a Soul for. A lifetime of torment is not the same as eternal torment. Earthly price is never a fair exchange for the price of one’s Soul.
“Being poor and not having riches seems unfair but in reality, it’s easier for the poor, the faceless and the oppressed to enter Heaven than the Rich, the Comfortable and the Influential of this World. All that money, all that wealth, all that fame, we will leave them all behind. They are not interchangeable for a ticket to stay in God’s Kingdom or skip Hell.”
Our Social Media and News Feeds appears biased in focusing and favoring the trends of the World, the Flesh and Vanity. Many of what’s considered cool, popular and beautiful on Earth has no value in the After Life. They may even be the cause of one’s eternal torment in the Fires of Hell.
So what to do? Filter and delete. Keep trying, keep changing. Be more by having less. Go back to God, his works and teachings. Connect and communicate to everything Heaven and let go of everything Earthly. Faith, Courage and Perseverance because the road to Heaven is the hardest and most challenging of them all. Short cuts are tempting always and giving up is a sigh of relief.
Sometimes, I forget my prayers when long time ago I memorized them by heart word for word, every detail, every feeling, night and day.
“The Bogeyman comes in all forms. War Leaders and their Soldiers that cause terror and harm are just some of them. Our War Nightmares ends when we wake up. True to Life Wars, the Nightmare continues when we’re awake.”
When I was a boy, my grandparents and relatives would tell us how they used to travel and go to the Mountains at night to hide and escape from the Japanese Soldiers.
One uncle, his brother was beheaded by a Japanese Soldier. Women are particularly in danger of being raped. Ancestral homes were occupied by the Japanese invaders or burned to the ground. Young Filipino Men become Soldiers overnight to defend their Country, their Homes, their Families. It was a time of horror and heroism. Patriotism and sacrificing one’s life was noble and generously selfless. People fight to defend their neighbors. It was a time of great pride to die for one’s Country and Countrymen. It was even a time of great honor to die for America as both Filipino and American Soldiers fought and died against one common enemy.
This was the War that haunts my childhood nightmares. The Japanese Soldiers were the Bogeymen with their rifles that has a sharp knife blade at its tip used to stab and kill. It was a War Nightmare I hope I don’t have to see and experience myself in my lifetime nor of my Family.
One CNN Reporter made a comment of Biden’s frank remark calling Putin a Butcher when it’s the same description the World thinks of Putin on his deadly War attack on Ukraine. Even President Biden is “not” suppose to freely express his right of freedom of speech.
So, what then is the authentic definition of Democracy and Freedom because it appears they are severely tarnished with Politics, Corruption and Bureaucracy that even the President of the United States of America can’t speak freely from his Heart. It’s implied that it’s better to lie than be honest, be genuine and transparent? WTF, this is so messed up. No wonder so many Americans are confused and stressed out.
But is War inevitable? Has World War III already began? Can Democratic Giants continue to use strict sanctions against Russia as a passive aggressive weapon to stop Russia from destroying the rest of Ukraine? Is it effective, or is it victimizing another group of People, the Russian Groups that don’t want to take part in the War but trapped and paralyzed themselves inside and outside of Russia?
Putin’s Evil ambition displaced 10 million Ukrainians and unknown numbers of Russians who were against Putin. Refugees are the dehumanizing effect of War. It is unacceptable yet it continues to exist. It is a sign of failure of Leaders and the powerful Global Peacekeepers. It is failure of Democracy to keep their “Men, Women and Children” equally safe and free from the real life Monsters and Bogeymen.
In any War, death happens to both sides. The difference is where the sympathy and support of the World lies. Obviously, it will not be towards whom the World see as the Evil Villains and Perpetrators. Their death and loss will even be celebrated. Now, is that being Humane? It’s that being Christian? Aren’t they just People stripped of their Freedom to choose for themselves?
“It’s a good thing if we are stressed and are affected by the War because it means we still care and give a damn. That is hope that we may respond when we are called to serve, protect and defend the Freedom we value so much instead of running way like all cowards do.”
Nurse clarifies reason for clinic visit, “It says here you’re here today for STD check. Is that right? “
Patient answers, “Yes. I’m here to have my throat check for STD.”
Nurse explains, “Since you wrote you also have sore throat, is it okay if I assess your throat for signs of infection?”
Patient verbalized, “Okay, you may check my throat.”
Nurse after observing pharyngeal redness and bilateral tonsillar redness with swelling and white spots explains, “You can tell the Doctor you want a test for throat STD, but likely the Doctor will also recommend COVID and Strep Throat test as these they also present with sore throat.”
Patient responds, “Okay.”
Nurse about to perform throat swab specimen collection after Doctor evaluation and order. Patient blurted out after a phone notification, “Oops, I have COVID.”
Patient said it so casually without signs of concern that she just exposed the Nurse, the Doctor and everyone she came in direct contact with that day by omitting an important information. Patient said after, “They got me tested for COVID because I work at a COVID testing clinic and got exposed to a Patient.”
Nurse trying to look unbothered proceeded to do the throat swab less than 6 feet distance in a small poorly ventilated room. Nurse quietly said to self, “Thank God I’m wearing N95.”
Next Day result came. Patient’s COVID PCR test confirms positive for COVID. She is also positive for Strep Throat Infection. No STD in throat. Patient given Penicillin prescription for the Strep. No prescription for COVID, just advice to gargle warm water with salt for symptomatic relief.
There will be lots of “Oops I have COVID” exposure and contact moments for everyone. Each Person exposed will react differently from angry, to annoyance, to worry, to laughter to no big deal.
Nowadays, it’s no big deal for Healthcare Workers. That common. Nothing special. No priority treatment for those who will get the next COVID. All sick Patients will be treated equally and fairly. Everyone waits in the E.R. lobby based on Acuity. No more preferential treatment as we are way past crisis mode.
No more free Government Hospital Funding. People will have to pay via their own insurance or out of pocket for Hospitalization Stay and Treatment that can cost them hundreds of thousands of dollars. Now, that part is no laughing matter. People will be in deep debt for a very long time. COVID becomes a very serious financial burden and liability.
Endemic means people will be responsible for paying for their own COVID related healthcare because we are passed Emergency Pandemic. Endemic means many testing and immunization clinics will be closed and there will be underreporting of COVID cases that will leave us blind as to how bad our next community outbreak will be.
2022 is the “Year of Whatever” for COVID. The answers to many of our questions will precisely be “Whatever” as well. Next several months will be unforgettable and interesting. Surprise to some, shock to others, no big deal for the rest.
As for me, I’m going for more vacays and nature road trips. After all, life has never been more short with all the events happening in our times. What happens next year, can wait for next year. Today and soon are what matters to me the most that they became a personal preferred lifestyle and mindset. No regrets. Just living in the moment day by day, month per month.
“Did I get COVID? Nope, still COVID Virgin and will remain so for as long as I can. Temptations begone!”
“School Rules are meant to guide and mold our Children to become smarter, kinder, more successful independent People.”
I have to look back and thank all my Son’s Teachers for the quality of education they have given him. So much heart, patience and passion.
We all need to look back how we treated our Teachers during this Pandemic. Did we acknowledge their hard work and sacrifice, or were we mean to them because we didn’t get what we want? Were we compassionate to them as they were gentle and understanding to our children when our children were having a bad day?
“Teach our Children to fish and they will learn to be confident, self reliant and be successful for the rest of their lives.”
We need to trust our Teachers. We need to support them in whatever way we can. The future of our children depends on having Great Teachers.
Good Education is everything. Not everyone can afford Private Schools and Private Schools can be overrated. Just me and my Son’s opinion. Yep, my 16-year old is also opinionated. It’s not genetic. It’s the school system preparing him for the Real World beyond the walls of his classroom.
Let me take you back to 2011…
We made it to the first two weeks of Kindergarten class. My son had been very excited about school, meeting his new and old classmates, of learning new things and of car pooling with other kids in our subdivision. He was so into it that he would even wake up his mom to tell her that it’s time for him to take a shower and prepare for school.
Yesterday, we had our first parents meeting. The teacher was really warm and understanding about our kid’s concerns in her class. She was very thorough in her discussions that ranges from the daily schedule, homework and attendance. The one that striked me the most was the topic on discipline. Our son can get overly excited and active in a lot of things. Last year, during the first few weeks of his Pre-K, my wife and I had a temporary episode of stress due to his teacher’s remark on his behaviour.
I can still clearly remember how upset and embarrassed my wife was when the teacher handed my son to her and told her, ” your son has issues.” In her mind she told herself, ” what issues?” There was no way to discuss what it was all about in front of the other parents. We had so many questions that weekend that left us feeling helpless.
To end our fears and undue anxiety, we scheduled the earliest parents conference that we could get. It turned out that the teacher is working closely with our son and that she understood the adjustments he’s going through. She also raised an only child. We felt a sudden relief. It was a simple case of misunderstanding. We did follow her recommended advises by heart. Everyday we would go over with our son the school rules and their consequences. We also made it a point to let him know that we love him and care about his well-being. That we want him to grow up respecting the rules and the people around him.
In the end, our persistence and consistency paid off. Our son improved tremendously. He attended an 18 day Summer class this year and not a single “bad day” remark on his conduct sheet. We were so proud and happy for him. He always gets a compliment, a hug, a kiss and a special treat when he finishes a 7 day of straight “good days.” His teacher said that he is such a joy to be with and that his classmates are fond of him.
The 7 golden rules are the following:
1. Listen when others are talking.
2. Follow directions.
3. Work quietly and do not disturb others.
4. Show respect for school and personal property.
5. Keep hands, feet and objects to self.
6. Work and play in a safe manner.
7. No running in the hallway.
These rules are a challenge when you’re talking about 22-23 active kids cramped inside a small class room.
You might be asking, ” how in the world is she going to manage all of them?” Well, each teacher has her own effective way to make sure that the kids follow the rules and still got to enjoy their school experiences.
One effective tool is “stamp in the folder.” Each child is given four cards of various colors inside a paper holder. For each rule that gets broken, the student pulls out a card. Each card that is pulled out has a corresponding consequence.
1. A pulled out green card means no stamp in the folder at the end of the day.
2. A pulled out orange card means 5 minutes time-out.
3. A pulled out blue card means 10 minutes time-out.
4. A pulled out yellow card means a phone call to the parents. Now, this one I dread the most. It’s one consequence that motivates me to work religiously with my son even if it involves a lot of time and energy.
At the end of the day, the kids get an inspiring praise and compliment as well as a “happy face” stamp to tell them that they were so behaved that day. On the seventh consecutive “good day,” the student gets to go to the treasure chest and picks his surprise present or reward. This is one incentive my son looks forward each week. Every time I pick up my son after school, he hurriedly pulls out his precious treasure inside his back pack and tells me excitedly, “Look dad, a toy for my good days.” One time, he was jumping with joy because he got a Bakugan toy which he was trying to collect. My heart melts every time I see him this happy. Who wouldn’t be?
As much as Pre-K and Kindergarten is about learning, of play and interaction with peers, it is also about molding our children to be responsible and respectful citizens that cares about others. A lesson in life that will prove invaluable when our kids grow up.
We went there for the beach, but destiny taught us to reflect “bigger.”
War History is warning and reminder that War is a product of Evil that brings nothing but misery, suffering, death and destruction. No one wins. Fallen Soldiers that died young leaving behind grieving orphans, widows and parents can not be raised back from the dead.
As I said, it was the beach that drew us to the Marin Headlands. It’s our second visit to Rodeo Beach. Nope, no Cowboys in these rugged seaside oasis. Just a vast land forgotten by time.
That day, Surfers were riding the waves like Cowboys ride their horses, wild, free, one with Nature, unafraid of unforeseen danger around and beneath them. Complete trust. No fear. Beautifully lost in their adrenaline and adventure. They are a vision of both inspiration and envy. They get to live their passion moment by moment, any day of choosing.
On the right side of the beach stands of what’s left of Fort Cronkhite, a former US Army post that served as part of the coastal artillery defenses of the San Francisco Bay Area during World War II.
The Soldiers at Cronkhite manned gun batteries, radar sites, and other fortifications on the high ridges overlooking the fort.
That day, we get to walk were Soldiers used to walk.
That day, we get to enjoy and respect the Bay like it was in the good old days.
That day, we get to go inside gun battery stations. We get to experience a Soldier’s claustrophobia, discomfort, loneliness, fear and isolation. Few minutes was already unbearable.
The breeze was powerful, strong, brave. I could hear a Soldier’s muffled whisper being carried by the wind. The words unclear, but there is a sad longing in its tone. And dead Soldiers had been patiently whispering everyday close to 8 decades hoping their messages might reach the people they left behind. Ghosts don’t get tired, people do.
Fort Cronkhite was established in the late 1930s. Over 70 years later, still remains the strong “Temporary Wooden Buildings” like the barracks, mess halls, supply depots, chapels, and recreation buildings.
The Fort was decommissioned in 1974 but it’s heart lives on in every space that still exist. The Fort feels like it’s alive and anytime the Ghosts of the people that once roam its halls and rest in its barracks will come to life like the war never stopped.
We went up towards the coastal side of the hiking trail. From above, the view was magnificent 360 degrees. Just as magnificent were the structures History and Man created. Just as magnificent were the formations Nature molded and shaped with its Elements. In this place, God and Man decided to do a collaborative Art. And yes, it’s a beautiful masterpiece.
Battery Townsley stands tall and proud like it’s ready anytime. Will the U.S. one day use all its weapons of defense? Is there a guarantee that we don’t destroy our Planet with us in it? Are we to face and experience these questions soon? It’s hard to take these reflections seriously when we were having so much fun.
Again, War History is teaching us all to be “bigger.” Our dead Soldiers are trying to rise from their graves to warn us from making the same horrific, deadly mistakes. The consequences of War will be the same regardless of time.
The War in Ukraine is not that far. The War on Humanity and Democracy is already here. We can’t pretend we don’t see it. We can’t pretend it doesn’t affect us. It’s just a matter of time for us to choose sides. Good versus Evil. Heroes versus Villains. Freedom versus Injustice. People versus the Oppressors, Whiners versus Doers.
“Only the guilty are haunted with no safe place to hide. Those with clear conscience are left alone. Ghosts are not the enemy. A Person’s Past is his or her real enemy.”
Some days, I feel nothing. Some days, I feel everything.
Some days I’m drowning and have to learn to save myself.
Some days, I’m so angry I could explode, but Society finds that hostile and inappropriate. And that anger gets worse when people verbally try to dismiss my right to be angry. Some days, submission and tolerance are virtues for the abused and the hurt forced by someone more powerful. Some days, I take it until I can’t anymore.
Some days, I’m at peace in the middle of chaos.
Some days, sadness piles up that tears dries up before they have a chance to fall. Some days, stress, worries, sadness and anxiety are so normal they become like second skin. Some days, they are needed to be shed to breathe and heal before another second skin appears.
Some days, I long to be understood and comforted. But for most, the only person who truly listens and gives me a much needed comfort is myself.
Some days, I just want to be left alone, disappear and hide from all. Some days I’m successful in my escape, Some days not. Everyone is in bondage to something or someone, I’m no exemption.
Some days, I want to smile and really feel it’s lightness, warmth and joy. I’m tired of faking it just to appear happy to please others and not draw attention.
Some days, I miss laughing. I miss the happiness and release it brings. Laughter has become a luxury rather than a free gift. Best medicine for Mental Health, but can get really expensive or run out of supply. Some days, Laughter is on back order with no definite time for availability.
Some days, I’m me. Some days, I don’t recognize the person staring back at me. Some days, I’m multiple Persons fighting for dominion depending on what People and circumstances requires.
Some days, everything is alive. Some days, just a lonely void of dark, cold emptiness.
Some days it’s Life. Some days it’s Death. Some days it’s Survival. Some days it’s Victory and Triumph.
Some days it’s surprise and newness. Some days, routine and boredom.
Some days words flows easy. Some days, words refuses to be set free.
Some days, inspiration wants to be captured to inspire and change our World inflicted by War, Disease, Evils of Men and Hell. Some days, that would be enough to restore Peace, Love, Good Health and Happiness. Some days, it ask for more sacrifices and giving.
Some days we are called to take action even if we are not ready. Some days, preparedness and fear are not an option. Some days we are called to be Heroes as events happen and be the bigger, better Person.
Some days, we could be anyone our Heart desires. Some days, we fail no matter how much we try.
Some days we battle our inner Wars. Some days, it’s War from external sources. Some days we loose. Some days we win. In all, we fight and be stronger for our some days.
“There is something quietly happening in every City in America. All defenses and mandates for COVID have been lifted yet yesterday a fellow Healthcare Worker said she gave 60 people the Government Free COVID Test Kits in one day. I also reached out to two patients to start right away their Anti-COVID Paxlovid medication before they pass their effectivity period, I haven’t seen this aggressiveness in terms of testing and treatment at any point of the Pandemic. Media coverage also unusually toned down. Is the quiescence a good sign or an ominous danger?”
Omicron numbers has gone down only to be replaced by it’s more transmissible subvariant BA.2. Then there’s the Deltacron recombinant that is being monitored by Scientists. Like earlier predictions, COVID variants will naturally emerge after the quiescence of the previous dominant variant because COVID genetically mutates to evade and resist everything that tries to eradicate it. We’ve seen this with the Alpha, Delta and Omicron variants.
In 2 months, mega Global Spike of new daily cases will be the talk of the town.
In 2 months, Americans will be told to change their lifestyle and behavior again.
The 4th new COVID Godzilla will be responsible for the next Global Pandemic Wave and U.S. 6th COVID Surge.
The challenge, convincing people to give up the convenience and comfort of their new given freedom again.
Whether it’s BA.2, Deltacron or out of nowhere variant with a new name all together, it is certain Godzilla variant will dominate our streets, our cities, our schools, our healthcare systems, our homes and our lives once more. Chaos from the resurgence of the Pandemic. Chaos from people fighting about reinforcing safety rules and restrictions.
What to do? Nothing really. For now, we enjoy and appreciate the quiescence because it’s a valuable gift of time and opportunity. We don’t waste them with negativity, procrastination and complaining. We deal of what’s to come when it happens.
It’s shouldn’t be too hard to be grateful. It shouldn’t feel heavy to celebrate our simple, small blessings and turn them to big happy moments. Creativity and imagination shouldn’t be difficult. Best part, they are free. Don’t we all love free stuff?
So much to live for. So much abundance of joy to catch, breathe and contain.
We are all part of the COVID Saga and the Pandemic. We all played parts that made it to what it is now.
Good or Bad, Honor or Shame, there is no more denying we all have changed. I have changed. Everyone around me have changed. We can pretend we gain back our normal pre-COVID, but deep inside, we know that is another lie.
The only constant sure thing is change. We should use that to our advantage. It’s opportunity for healing, preparedness, survival and unification.
If we are paying attention to the trends and patterns of the next Godzilla of COVID Variants, the COVID Tsunami begins in Asia, then Africa and or U.K., then U.S.A. last. The Pandemic Cycle then repeats.
BA.2 is now surging in Asia and U.K. BA.2 is already in America and will infiltrate faster than Omicron quietly until cases becomes explosive and overwhelming. Many will not see what hit them and will be confused why their Work Boss is telling them to go home. Many will be scratching their heads why they are in Clinics and Emergency Rooms being tested for COVID and given COVID instructions even before their results have come back.
This unfortunately is what “Endemic” looks like surge after surge, season after season, year after year. Those who have not accepted this fact will be the most confused of all when they start having COVID symptoms and be told to stay home and get tested.
“COVID has a predictable pattern. People have a predictable pattern of attitude and behavior. Why the surprise with new outbreaks? Why the shock when we are placed on restrictions and quarantine? We need to be grateful that at least we may not die.”
People have a tendency to makes us feel even more worse than we were before when we become ourselves.
Instead of empathic words and actions, we get indifference and super insensitive annoying comments that only makes us feel bad, more alone and angry. And this comes from all, Strangers, Acquaintance, Co-Workers, Work Managers, trusted Friends and Family. Why? Is it that difficult to feel something and relate? What happened to Love? What happened to, “We only wish for your Happiness?” What happened to being Human capable of caring and kindness? Is it really that rare nowadays? I still want to believe it’s not.
It’s no wonder People going through anxiety, depression, post trauma from Stress caused by other People have to seek Professional Help to be listened too and understood. And those who don’t, just close themselves from the World or end their World.
So many People but only a special few we can count with our fingers that we can trust to keep our secrets. Even less when it’s sharing the burdens and weight we carry through the years. When it comes to our Mental and Emotional struggles, Family and Friends can easily become Strangers because they can’t believe what we go though are real Demons and Nightmares. They can not accept and handle that their perfect love one is broken and imperfect. They can’t believe someone who has been their pillar and help is asking help and understanding.
Have you opened up to your Parents, Siblings or closest Friends and up front said, “I don’t believe you?” Has a Family you trust told you, “I don’t want to hear your problem,” just when you needed them the most? How about a Work Manager telling you, “You are Paranoid,” when you expose the truth everyone else have seen and experienced?” Being Alone just went to another level of excruciating loneliness, isolation, frustration and numbing desperation. But in time, one learns to live with it so well that People only see a Person who appears to have everything perfectly all together. Strong, confident, successful, invincible, happy.
Great acting comes from constant exposure and practice. Great actors hide their secrets flawlessly. Great performance makes the audience believe whatever the Performer wants them to believe. Almost like deception, but really it’s just a way to protect oneself from more harm and pain.
We actually have to pay for someone to give us time and understanding. We actually have to pay for advice that true Friends, Family and our Work Managers are suppose to do or could have done…genuinely.
No wonder people feel very alone, messed up, angry, withdrawn and distrustful more than ever. Frustration is overrated. Anger has turned to Passive Aggressive routine. Suck it up is the new norm. Deal with it yourself is the new empowerment and being independent.
Survive for yourself. Fight for yourself. Be okay for yourself. Advocate for yourself.
A Friend started opening up about her personal experience on Anxiety, Depression, Traumatic Stress. I listened intently. I didn’t even have to give advice or recommendations because she found a way to deal with her internal battles on her own way. My silence listening to her, and likely my facial expression, “I so get what you are saying and I’m here, go on,” made her see and feel sincere empathy and understanding.
When my Friend was finished, she asked me how I was. That was my sign to share something I can’t comfortably and safely tell other people. Since then, we become each other support and therapist when needed. We became true Friends willing to listen and save each other when needed. I was lucky, and yes did not have to pay a therapist.
How many really are willing to see every detail of you? How many are ready to experience all of you? For many it may be terrifying so they talk and act safely, defensively, superficially with you. Just the standard Society deemed enough when you wanted and needed something deeper and more meaningful. Some are built to be there only during the good times. Some are built to run away or close their doors during the bad times. Who’s left to be with you? They are your true Family and Friends.
I brave up to be myself. I was okay to be myself, and one person saw themselves through me. It was worth it because I believe I’m worth it and people alone in their battles are worth reaching, helping, empathizing, listening with full acceptance and kindness.
We have eyes that refuses to see the truth, reality and suffering. We have ears that automatically closes when we hear anything that is uncomfortable and does not concern us. Self care versus Selfish. They are very different like night and day.
Don’t we have Hearts that are suppose to care and give a damn?
“So go on, I’m listening. Don’t hold back. It’s okay to be you.”
“Democratic Countries thinks they are not involve yet with Russia’s War with Ukraine, but they are. America thinks it is enough to stop the War by watching from afar, make sanctions against Russia and give monetary aid to Ukraine, but they are not enough. It takes another Super Power to beat another Super Power or a collaboration of Super Powers. Isn’t America the Superman of Humanity and Democracy? Where’s the rest of Justice League?”
“Giving weapons or money for weapons is perceived as U.S. joining Ukraine against Russia. It is enough to trigger Putin to include U.S.A. as its enemy. Prolong Diplomatic talks only leave us more vulnerable and unprepared if Putin gets trigger happy. Which City he will send his Nuclear Missile Bomb first? Are we ready?”
Americans and the World are right in being stressed out on the War Putin of Russia is commanding to kill Ukrainians, destroy their Heritage, drive them out of their homes and eventually take over their Country.
Americans and the World are right in their paranoia that World War III has began and it can explode anytime to eradicate millions of people in this Planet.
“Our Leaders will handle the War like it handled the Pandemic. There will be so much misinformation, lies and non-transparency, that it’s citizens will fight and confuse each other instead of preparing to fight against a common enemy.”
My son is 16 and he is stressed and scared. Youth and Children like him are stressed and scared. Why? Because they read more and are very engage to what’s really going on in their World compared to Adults. Youth and Children are constant followers and believers of information from YouTube, Instagram, FB, Tik Tok.
Youth and Children don’t ignore what comes out of their News Feed. They are naturally curious of what comes out of their notifications and top stories.
Adults, we’ll many of us learned to ignore the truths by ignoring events and facts all together. This help us deal with them more comfortably.
Omission, evasion, avoidance, denial, selective ignorance, Adults use these coping mechanisms to feel unaffected, unbothered, free of pain and guilt, remain positive and relax. I know them well because I use them when I have to.
U.S. Government for now does not want to send its Soldiers of Humanity and Democracy so it’s sending billions of money instead. How much of this will truly benefit the Ukrainians is the same question and answer to the billions spent on the Pandemic. Some of this money when straight into someone’s pocket. Like all Countries, U.S. also has corrupt and opportunistic Government Officials and Businessmen who uses War to make millions and billions. That is nothing new. Corruption is basic in any Politics.
It only takes one Man to start a Global War. We saw that with Hitler. We are seeing that again with Putin.
18 days of on going Russian attack and bombing of Ukraine ordered by Putin, created enough images of death and destruction to prove World War III has began. How big, deadly and destructive this War can become is up for the rest of the World. But for sure, it won’t end by waiting and staring.
For now, thousands and thousands of Civilians and Soldiers have to die. That is something the Evils of War guarantees.
Putin’s War on Ukraine didn’t just happened overnight. It happened with years of careful planning, thought, strategy and manipulation.
Putin is a Genius. He is reversing effectively the narrative of how he will invade one country at a time. His Propaganda and Mind Control measures works. If a Russian Father can not believe, does not believe his own Ukrainian Son story of being a victim of War with physical evidences, then that confirms Putin’s brainwashing tools of mass control is highly effective. Hitler was a Genius too who together with his Nazi Leaders commanded the German Soldiers to kill millions of Jews without mercy and conscience.
“Evil is very charismatic and hard to resist. We don’t even realize it’s evil. We may believe without a doubt that it is Patriotism, Entitlement, Revenge and Opportunity for Power and Riches.”
Proof of War? Type in your Google Search, “When did Putin attack Ukraine 2022?” Below pops up.
On 24 February, about 5 am EET (UTC+2), Putin announced a “special military operation” to “demilitarise and denazify” Ukraine. Minutes later, missiles struck places across Ukraine, including Kyiv, the national capital.
Demilitarize to Putin is destroying a Country to make it defenseless. Denazify to Putin is killing men, women and children defenseless and drive away the rest from their homes as Refugees. Putin has twisted the truths of his actions when in reality he is the Nazi King giving orders to a fully militarized Army with full access to Nuclear Weapons capable of destroying our Planet. We that in mind, we are already part of this War whether we like it or not.
One War, One Planet.
So, yes in time actual Men and Women like ourselves, our Parents, Brothers, Sisters, Sons and Daughter will be sent to stop the War and stop the biggest threat to Humanity and Democracy. That time is soon because the longer we wait, the stronger the Hitler of our times becomes. Will we be ready? We will never be. But that won’t be a choice anymore when we are called to serve, save and defend.
So, yes, we need to be stressed worried and scared like our Youth and Children because there is no running away from a war happening within this Planet, our Planet. Every destruction has thousands of ripple effects that causes more destructions. Every valuable Life taken will cause a ripple effects of more deaths and loses.
The longer we are “uninvolved” the closer we are to a reality of World War III. This time, the enemy is not invincible unlike the virus of the Pandemic War. The enemy is very visible and have everything our horrific nightmares has.
Am I worried? I should be. Am I scared? Who wouldn’t since it’s all I see in my News Feeds and Top Stories. Am I involved? I already am because I live in the same Planet where the War on Humanity and Democracy is happening.
I’m already reflecting on the possibility that one day soon, my Son may choose to fight to preserve the lives of others and preserve Democracy for which the United States of America is suppose be the its Leader and Protector. And if I want my Son to live longer, I may take his place, because it’s every Parent responsibility to keep their Children safe. This I can’t just omit, evade and run away from. It’s Love, Responsibility and Parenthood.
“And then there is the End of Times if we believe it’s true as written in the Scriptures.“
There is really no escape to what’s about to come. These events were written in Heaven and Hell centuries ago. First comes Diseases, then War, then Parents against their Sons and Daughters or vice versa, then Darkness and End of the World will stretch in years. Most of us won’t notice them till it’s too late, but some of us are already seeing it’s signs and are getting ready.
Okay, back to something chill, relaxing and feel good only. I’m still an Adult after all.
“It’s better to fight and die for something noble, heroic and with purpose, than to die insignificant, senseless and selfish.”
“In critical situations, no room for self doubt. Decisive, firm instincts and actions from years of work experience matters. Seconds and minutes matters.”
It’s the Third Year Month Anniversary of COVID. 6 million Global lives lost, close to 1 Million Americans lives lost. These numbers will keep increasing by the day.
Did time, experience and lessons made us smarter? Are we better? Did we really learned anything or nothing? What I see, tells me our collective approach to the Pandemic is the worst that its ever been. What I observe tells me how bad People have become in treating other People. Selfishness is at its all time high, but that’s nothing new.
COVID for Dessert
Back from Lunch Break, Registration Staff hurriedly told Nurse, “I have a COVID Patient. What should I do?” Nurse told her, “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of it.”
Quickly, Nurse put on an N95, called the Patient’s name, verified his identification and directed him to the nearest room. Nurse asked Patient for confirmation, “Are you diagnosed with COVID?” Sounding confused, he replied, “No, I’m vaccinated, but I would like to be tested for COVID.” Nurse answered, “Yes, we can test you for COVID.”
Walking from chair to bed, about 5 feet away, Patient said, “I’m short of breath just from walking. I feel so tired.” Patient looked clammy and diaphoretic. Patient initial oxygen saturation reading was 91% in room air ( normal is 95% and above) with Blood Pressure on sitting of 94/42. Nurse first taught, “He’s Hypoxic with signs of Hypovolemic Shock. I better speed this up, he can go into Cardio-Pulmonary Arrest quickly.”
Nurse calmly told Patient, “We have to call 911 and transfer you to the Emergency Room.” Nurse explained to Patient why and Patient verbally agreed. Nurse told Patient, “But first, I want to make sure you’re safe and okay.”
Nurse elevated Patient’s legs to promote blood venous return and started him with oxygen at 2 liters per minute via nasal canulla. Nurse quickly swabbed Patient for COVID test just prior to starting oxygenation.
Nurse had to keep Patient awake and conscious by talking. Nurse forgot what he was talking about as Nurse was multi-tasking from physically helping and observing patient to documentation, communicating to the Doctor, calling 911 dispatch, giving SBAR report to Emergency Room Charge Nurse and ambulance Medic. Nurse adrenaline was pumping max for focus and efficiency. Nurse felt like he had 10 hands and on skates. Super Nurse Mode activated!
Patient oxygen saturation improved to 99% at 2 liters oxygen. His BP increased to 140/65 without I.V. fluids. First aid for Orthostatic Hypotension worked. His respiration still fast and labored at 26 respirations per minute which indicates he is still having Respiratory Difficulty.
Patient history of present illness. Worsening cough, fatigue, runny nose, fever, chills, loss of taste and smell and shortness of breath for 2 days. He is fully COVID vaccinated with booster. He had a telephone appointment with his Doctor and he was in the building simply to pick up his Albuterol Inhaler and other medicines. He denies any past Pulmonary Problems.
Californians are excited. March 14, 2022 is the official “No Mask” Independence Day for indoors and school. It’s also the Anniversary of the first Pandemic Lockdown that halted everything in the World. But is the daily COVID community transmissions over? No it has not. But, we feel like celebrating a battle not fully won, so we celebrate. We self declared the virus as Endemic when we have more infection and deaths than most Countries in the World. The confidence is amazing and bizarre. Like many, I want it to be “normal” badly.
Patient suddenly developed shortness of breathing just from walking from car to pharmacy. On the way out the pharmacy, he saw an Urgent Care and decided to ask for help.
Going through the events, Nurse realized how lucky Patient was. Patient was exactly at the right place at the right time. Patient was having Acute Respiratory Distress with Hypovolemia. Patient could be having Sepsis as well. If Patient decided to go home struggling to breathe, he would have not made it. But Patient gut feeling told him to ask for help and it saved his life.
After Patient left via ambulance on sirens, Nurse jokingly told Registration Staff, “Thanks for the COVID Dessert.” She replied laughing, “You’re welcome. You want more?” Nurse laughed and said, “No, I’m Full,” and moved on to the next Patient that needed care.
Healthcare Workers and Patients will be the last one to remove their masks, if that is even possible. Part of Joint Commission Standard of Care is Infection Prevention in Hospitals and Clinics. And if wearing mask is the no. 1 safety precaution, then it answers every Healthcare Worker question, “When can I remove my mask at work?” The Answer is Never because COVID will exist everyday and forever.
JHU data: Above 42,000 COVID new cases today with above 1,300 deaths. Isn’t this showing we have more deaths to new cases ratio than last February when it was 180,000 cases per 2,300 deaths? I was never good in Math but looks like more are dying as compared to the same Month last year.
It annoys me when News Reporters announced smiling and happy, “Our COVID deaths are reduced,” while omitting how many really died that day. People’s lives are not bargain things on marked discount. No respect to the dead, their living orphans, and the people who took care of them to their last breathe.
This is a normal day for any Nurse and Doctor that works in Family Medicine, Primary Care, Urgent Care and Emergency Care. Clinical Eye for more than 2 years of the Pandemic made us experts in detecting suspicious manifestations of COVID. It made us comfortable, even excited on facing the next COVID challenge. We follow our common sense and gut feelings together with Science we studied and practiced for more than 20 years. If we can’t get it accurately and timely with all that we got, then we’re not good Healthcare Providers at all.
Forbes article above is one proof that Nursing Work Conditions and Personal Work Experience are being handled in a very aesthetic, superficial, cover up, bandaid fashion.
First idea should have been, “Treat Nurses as Human Beings.”
Second, “Listen and addressed the realness of their stories, needs, work trauma and stress.”
Third, “Don’t treat Nurses like they are stupid and does not observe Administration and Management actions and fake sincerity.”
Fourth, “Value, appreciate, compensate what the Hard Workers and your top Work Assets do and not play Politics by pleasing the Lazies and the Liabilities.”
Your Hard Workers may not tell you but they remember all the details of what you did or did not do. Remember, they have degrees that happened because they are one of the smartest people in this Planet, on top of being the most caring and selfless. Once you repeatedly loose your Nursing Staff loyalty and trust, you may never be able to gain them back no matter how much you try. Like everyone else, they get calloused and their heart can close indefinitely.
Of course, we don’t pretend to be Gods so we humbly accept mistakes when they happen. We are only Human. We also ask for God’s help in silent prayer when nothing works and miracles are our only hope. Not everything is cured nor explained by Science.
Today, I get to show you what I and all Medical Professionals routinely see and do, feel and think as the Invincibles behind the scenes.
Today is about Raw Professional Reality. It’s real life, day to day ordinary events of Healthcare Providers all around the World day and night, 365 days a year.
Today is advocating for all Nurses and Doctors who are either two busy healing others or too afraid to advocate for themselves.
Today, is all about Patient Advocacy and providing the Safest and Highest Quality Patient Care possible Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations will be so proud of.
Nursing is about caring. Medicine is about healing. No discrimination. No Personal Judgement and comfort. They require lots of Heart, Courage, long years of Clinical Skills, Knowledge and Experience to remain in the Profession in a Planet inflicted by many constantly evolving Global Diseases and Illnesses.
If you are a new Nurse/Doctor or studying to be one, be ready for the most thrilling, challenging, life-changing adventure of your life. Be ready to be that Hero that will save the day, again and again. Overwhelmed is just a catchy word for News Headlines. We don’t get to be overwhelmed nor have the luxury for Mental Health Self Care. We go full blast, full speed till we are out of batteries. It’s just how we are and what our Profession demands.
Real Superheroes don’t wear sculpted spandex. They wear stained, worn out scrubs. They don’t hide their identity because their faces are instantaneously forgettable. Do we remember the Face of the last Nurse and Doctor that made us feel better? Exactly!
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