First visit was for me. Second visit was for us. Both, a beautiful thrilling Nature revelation that is special and personal.
Who can ever forget their first time…in everything? Who would have taught second time is just as good and surprising? Here at 4 Mile Beach at Wilder Ranch State Park, it did, at least from my own experience and relationship with Nature.
I took several days off for myself and family. I needed some space from work. My blood pressure has been severely high at work running in the 150’s/100’s and panicked enough to see the Doctor. To my relief, blood pressure dropped to Borderline Normal range of 130’s/80’s. It was Stress Hypertension. I didn’t even know such thing exist and I’m in the Medical Field. Doctor pointed out my HbA1c is pre-Diabetic and I gained 35 lbs since 2016. We discussed what must be done and I totally agree. That day, I made a decision to commit myself on healthier lifestyle changes. Back to low salt, low sugar, low calorie diet and regular exercise. These are the easier challenges.
The hardest of challenges is overcoming work stress. So many uncontrolled, unpredictable variables. Also, I can’t just quit my job and find another that hopefully is better and kinder.
I need to make drastic mindful changes on how to cope with stress and anxiety. I need to change how I react on people’s repetitive selfish, negative or negligent attitude and behavior. I need to care less of what they can hopefully change and care more on what I can do and change. I need to detach my thoughts and feelings from work and just treat it as work. Caring too much is frowned upon. It exposes slackers. It exposes substandard, potentially unsafe work ethics and practices. It exposes questions not meant to be known, answered or challenged. It’s threading towards danger that may not end well for the person trying to do the right thing.
Sometimes it’s better to just close our eyes than fight a system we will never win and only brings us fear, anguish and stress. It’s better to focus the mind, body, heart and spirit on what gives inspiration and is able to reciprocate our true worth.
Family Time, Nature Outdoors and Exercise are part of my major coping mechanism against stress. They calm my nerves. They make me breath easier. They make me happier and take off my mind from what gives me anxiety, sadness, frustration, even anger.
Back to my Father and Son Nature Hike Adventure at 4 Mile Beach. It was everything and beyond I imagined. It was an energizing escape. It was relaxing. It was a fun outdoor exercise with glorious therapeutic views.
It felt good to share with my son what I see and feel visiting this beach. It was nice to discover new experiences with Nature that is just for the two of us.
For a moment, I turned back time. I was a kid again, wide eyed ecstatic, curious, imaginative, weightless. For a moment a get to play, laugh without cares and worries. I forgot about stress. Anxiety got blown by the strong winds. I forgot about the adult world and it’s insane demands and cruelty.
4 miles of being lost in a blissful Nature dream. 4 miles of just me and him.
For a few hours, I felt Human again and not a highly useful, functional Robot for everyone’s use and convenience.
It’s okay to go out there and find our own joy and calmness. It’s okay to value our life and start living healthier, happier. People may not like it. Kindness to self is not something just freely preached or given, but at someone point, we need to brave up and own it.
Sunday, we decided to take a day trip to Big Sur to highlight our Memorial Day Weekend. Waiting for the heavy traffic to end, I told my wife and son, “I’m just so happy today. I don’t know why. May be it’s getting enough good sleep. May be it’s the thought of going outdoors. But we did went out the other day, and it didn’t feel the same.”
Take a break from all that breaks you no matter short. Stop ignoring Stress and its long term health effects. It’s a silent killer. Are the source and cause of our Stress really worth dying for?
We only have one life to live. No reruns. It’s exhaustible and fragile. And even if we think we can function like a Robot, we still need rest and restoration. Otherwise, we will burn out or break down sooner than our warranty like all machines do.